I'm a married man of 12 years. I'm 41. Wifey and I used to fuck like rabbits before marriage and after 2 kids, suddenly the passion stopped. It could be because of hormones after child birth.
I have tried to reignite the passion for 3 years but nothing fruitful. I have also explained to her the need for intimacy in the marriage, but seems to have fallen on deaf ears. She refused counselling too.
Her goal now is to climb the corporate ladder. And when she's not working, she indulges in Netflix till 4am, whether she has fever, flu or menses. When I tried asking for sex, she'd say no due to fever, flu or menses.
Truth is, I was a very geeky, "law abiding" guy before marriage..straight as an arrow. That time I often believed the value of being "faithful" and despised the people who goes out to "play".
As years rolled by and i gather more life experience, I realised a lot of things are not black and white. And i started realising why we men will go "eat outside".
I only had sex with wife 3 times in last 4 years. I think this is a very common stat in Singapore.
What really triggered me to justify me "eating out" was that one sentence wife said to me, when I asked for intimacy and sex .. "I only agreed to have sex with you because I wanted kids."
I have tried commercial sex. But as it stated.. its commercial feel.
I'm on lookout for potential FWB in same boat as me. Married but lonely etc.
If you're asking me why not i seek divorce, I have ever asked my wife twice on this, she refused (for the kids). besides i'll lose everything. And honestly it doesnt really make sense since almost everything else in my marriage is fine, except the intimacy and sex (though its a very big deal).
bro was there anything when you were dating time which you now think back may have given the impression she wasnt really into sex or she didnt enjoy it?
I'm a married man of 12 years. I'm 41. Wifey and I used to fuck like rabbits before marriage and after 2 kids, suddenly the passion stopped. It could be because of hormones after child birth.
I have tried to reignite the passion for 3 years but nothing fruitful. I have also explained to her the need for intimacy in the marriage, but seems to have fallen on deaf ears. She refused counselling too.
Her goal now is to climb the corporate ladder. And when she's not working, she indulges in Netflix till 4am, whether she has fever, flu or menses. When I tried asking for sex, she'd say no due to fever, flu or menses.
Truth is, I was a very geeky, "law abiding" guy before marriage..straight as an arrow. That time I often believed the value of being "faithful" and despised the people who goes out to "play".
As years rolled by and i gather more life experience, I realised a lot of things are not black and white. And i started realising why we men will go "eat outside".
I only had sex with wife 3 times in last 4 years. I think this is a very common stat in Singapore.
What really triggered me to justify me "eating out" was that one sentence wife said to me, when I asked for intimacy and sex .. "I only agreed to have sex with you because I wanted kids."
I have tried commercial sex. But as it stated.. its commercial feel.
I'm on lookout for potential FWB in same boat as me. Married but lonely etc.
If you're asking me why not i seek divorce, I have ever asked my wife twice on this, she refused (for the kids). besides i'll lose everything. And honestly it doesnt really make sense since almost everything else in my marriage is fine, except the intimacy and sex (though its a very big deal).
Go and eat outside, sometimes eating at home is depressing.
Totally agree. Economy is no good but lawyers are still earning big bucks, why donate to them?
Save ur money for FL/ML services.
I've been a monk for don't know how many X years.
We still live under same roof just that not on the same bed. At night she will watch her china shows while I surf my porn or SBF. Usually I will DIY in the living room or toilet. If I am lazy I will do it next to her before I sleep.
We still go out as family for shopping buying household stuff.
The only reason we are not going seperate is because of her religion. Whereas I am doing it for my children's sake.
just wondering, if you get a sex doll and do it in front of her on the bed, would she be aroused?
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Stay clear to your so call know 20over year friend. a real person or real(alpha) male wont suggest a divorce to friend for such issue. your problem just a small issue, or perhaps not even a issue. only beta male see it as problem. hope you transform yourself to alpha male, hope not offended you, i truly hope you have a troublefree life. as some alpha male bros have given good advices, dont divorce. as your so call 20over y friend, trust me. he is toxic to you. or....maybe he aim your wife v long already...?... 😄
Staying married is alpha? Haha! Ok, bro. Going back home from work and facing a dead fish is alpha?
just wondering, if you get a sex doll and do it in front of her on the bed, would she be aroused?
Did thought of it. But because kids are around. Difficult to keep it la.
Anyway, even if I do it, it will never arouse her. Tried many ways. Give up already. She openly tell me she is 性冷感。
Did thought of it. But because kids are around. Difficult to keep it la.
Anyway, even if I do it, it will never arouse her. Tried many ways. Give up already. She openly tell me she is 性冷感。
Unless she despise even doing anything intimate with you, which is then really bo pian. Else she might not have found what really arouses her. As long as she's willing to still play along, don't give up trying. Once you found and she realise that switch, you'll be opening a flood gate of fun.
I had a FB whom also claimed to be 性冷感 when we met and had never climax when having sex, but when I paint her and lick and suck her clit, she can come over and over we both get what we wanted
Long post ahead. So I shall start with the moral of the story first. My advise to you is, dont start. And if you have already started, then you must always remember to fuck and forget and only fuck those that you pay. Remember this, the most expensive fucks are the ones you dont pay. Most importantly, NEVER, I repeat, NEVER EVER, put your emotions into the game.
I have been with my wife for more than a decade and together we have a kid. From the fifth year onwards, i started to eat outside. I started with whores in geylang. I remember my first time in geylang like it was yesterday. After that, I started to get addicted to going geylang. From once a month to twice a month eventually once a week. The reason I go for my weekly geylang fuck is because I met a girl there whom my heart started to flutter for her. We have such amazing sex and we had such chemistry that towards the end of her two years, we fucked raw. Yes, I raw a whore.
After she went home, I carried on my fucks in geylang. However, I felt empty. I crave that emotional fucks that I used to have. Slowly, I went to MP and started flirting. I didnt just want their pussy, I want that emotional attachment. I crave that fluttering of the heart when I meet a girl like how I used to have for my wife and later that WL in geylang. I tried many MP, I tried many WL, more than half of my monthly income was spent just fucking and massaging. But still, I crave that emotional attachment. Most of them are just after money, they do not have that feeling for me. So from sex workers, I moved on to fishing outside of the sex industry.
And out of nowhere, when I wasnt even looking for her, she appeared. She's not a sex worker, just a normal working class citizen. From the moment I met her, i knew it. I knew it was love at first sight. We started talking and we had great chemistry. Both of us like to sing and we sang our heart outs in the car. After a long day, we decided to check in to a hotel and i had the most passionate sex I ever had. I was so in love. She is beautiful and she is great in bed, and boy when I say great, I mean... REALLY GREAT...
Not long after, she officially became my mistress. She knows that I am married and she doesnt mind. The reason she gave was because she loves me. You know that fluttering feeling I told you about? It came back. We started to have sex everywhere. In the car, in handicap toilet, staircase, you name it, we did it. I was so blinded in love that I fucking went overseas with her lying to my wife that it was a business trip.
In the end, as the saying goes, all things come to an end. And not just the relationship with her, but my marriage as well. My wife found out about her after a series of events and all hell broke loose. I know its a cliche to say this but really, you never know how much you love someone until you lose them. As I am typing this, I can tell you that yes, I do love these three women in my life, but I love my wife the most. More than the whore, more than my mistress. What have I left with now? Nothing. Absolutely nothing except a depressing life which I have thought of countless times to commit suicide.
So let me repeat what I want to tell you. Dont start, its not worth it. And if you really want to start, then fuck and forget. I wish you well, stay safe.
Thanks for sharing. I think many bros went through this before. Think of the consequences before doing anything!
Actually not funny leh...that's precisely the pt...since wife don't want to giv or don't care to giv, so when a chick as pretty n sexy as this one cums along, out of depravation, sure yr didi will mari kita one
I'm in my 30s, most of my close friends are married. Most of their wives, after marriage, just stopped putting effort into their looks. Now they look like those typical SG chinese aunties. Quite a few of my friends have also told me that they did regret getting married; nothing to gain and have half their assets to lose.
I'm 31 and married for 3 years with a 5 month old baby. The last time i had sex with my wife was dec 2019. It's quite depressing for me because sex is a big thing to me, and even when i ask for it, she just shun and find all kinds of excuses. Maybe not excuses? But she says she's tired, no feel, back ache. I understand it's the hormones maybe, but the thing is, before she conceived, we only has sex like once per 3 or 4 months. Sigh i'm also looking for some excitement in my sex life.
20-11-2020, 03:11 PM
Re: bros who are married but eating outside...
we both get what we wanted 
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