Any guys here above 30 years old n never have gf before, fall in

[biantaishushu]

can share why you never have gf before and how did you try to find a gf.

For me, i am 36 years old earn less than 2.5k. I guess i am socially awakard plus i am low income earner so hard to get a gf.

[pearlnjewel]

Early 30s. Not so tall like 180cm. Just average intelligence. Look normal. Boring conversationalist. Partly job is stressful and not fun with colleagues so it just shapes character to a certain extent. Girls always like a guy to be fun and interesting.

Tried to meet local girls on dating app but nothing no reply no likes. Hard to continue conversation with any girl. Tried joining many classes of interest. Pretty colleagues none are interested in me partly because mine was a junior role, not like supervisor or manager. Many girls i met and like are attached. OT busy always see same colleagues face.

Tried cold approach, not helping. I might come off as freaky. Girls not interested in finding partner, too many girl workaholic OTOTOT.

Materialistic girls. No car.

Not like i never tried, it is just a demoralising singapore to find partner.

No house, singapore expensive wages too low for locals.

[DANiel™]

I don't think it has anything to do with being rich or poor, being handsome or ugly.
The bangla cleaner also can have pinay gf so i'm pretty sure you're "better" than him isn't it?

You definitely need to be socialble, have some charisma, be able to talk to women and also be in the right environment to meet women (you cant be at home all day and expect to meet women right?)
Also of course, you have to manage your expectations.
I'm not saying you can't have high expectations but you must understand if you're expecting a 8/10 girl you need to be able to match her or be able to play in her league. So up your game!

[Marq]

Don't be because your income not high you feel you not good enough. I've seen hopeless dudes get girls too. But of course, your expectations must be right as well.

But still, you should find ways to upgrade yourself. It may not be easy, but it is definitely possible

[biantaishushu]

Originally Posted by pearlnjewel

Tried cold approach, not helping. I might come off as freaky. Girls not interested in finding partner, too many girl workaholic OTOTOT.

How you try cold approach?

Randomly approach pretty girls on the streets?

What you say to them?

[Greenfrog]

Originally Posted by biantaishushu

can share why you never have gf before and how did you try to find a gf.

For me, i am 36 years old earn less than 2.5k. I guess i am socially awakard plus i am low income earner so hard to get a gf.

socially awkward is the killer..

ts, just try to earn as much as possible.

[randyrockhard]

The best advice I ever got from my housemate was, to show your true self.
What is it that you have about yourself that you can offer to the girl?

I mean, not everyone is born rich, with good looks, or a silver tongue. And that doesn't stop people from improving themselves one way or another, in order to find that one match for us.

I learned that, having relationships actually help us to discover even more about ourselves, our expectations, our hopes and dreams, and what really matters to you.

The woman I am with right now, told me and everyone she knows, that she wants me because I am a loving person. 😚 My job is alright, perhaps a bit underpaid compared to other industries, look is just average, not really good with words either.... But I do have the ability to make people at ease with themselves, with my calmness, inquisitive nature, and non-judgemental manners.

I am also fully aware that I may not be what every girl needs and that is alright. 🥰
We just need to find the right match for each other.

[Maxlion]

Don’t worry lah..once girls have enough fun and not much value Liao will find good guys like us all to be married off..Sound harsh but it’s the damn truth.

[staminadick]

Forget about GF.

Go out socialise to get rid of the BianTaiNess.

Anyway focus on girl is waste of time. Go find some things to do and see if have group activities or not.

[Jackcarver]

on dating app i think you try to avoid the mentality of must make sure the girl is the one for you. even if not suitable for dating you can still make friends and meet up as friends. this way you can practice talking to many girls and get used to it

[Ginung]

If 30, got gf but no sex, how? Sad life or not?

[pearlnjewel]

go for matching making service like lunch actually or the jap match making. The fees is ex. Work hard for the money first.

Or go marry bride. Think that one also ex, not cheap. Just be single lah. Save money for house.

[AUDIFANSG]

Since you are aware of your own shortcomings, you should really lower down ur expectations. Just like in sales, there are no things that cant be sold, just need to find the right customer and right price. Don go aft pretty girls or materialistic girls obviously, Sg girls are well known to be very demanding and this demandingness only increases if the girl is in demand..

[Grounded Eagle]

Originally Posted by biantaishushu

For me, i am 36 years old earn less than 2.5k. I guess i am socially awakard plus i am low income earner so hard to get a gf.

Whether a girl goes with you or not dun really depends on how much you earn unless those girls are the materialistic golddiggers.

When I was younger..... I was often in-between jobs and always short of cash. But I always had friends including girls who dun mind extending a helping hand and sharing what they have. Somehow girls seem attracted to down n outs like myself and I have no shortages of indecent proposals for ONS or bf/bg relationship. I never opted for any relationships as I am a player who loves the forest than restrict myself to 1 tree.
Even when I ended up working in GL and was frequently in & out of police stations...... dunno why these girls still keep coming to me....
Although I never took any interest in any of them..... I kept in touch with some of them to use as my spare tire whenever I wanted to release. Everyday working with those beautiful Cat150 WLs does make you horny....

So TS.... dun let your lack of cash be an obstacle to scoring with the opposite sex..... more important is how you carry yourself and the confidence you project outwards to others. When they feel comfortable with you..... they will also be comfortable opening up their holes to you.

[heyumf]

Me no gf at all going to 30 soon liao meanwhile my friend all attached