I suggest telling the doctor exactly what happened(between you and your wife) and see if the doctor has any suggestions to help you out, after all the doctor may know ways around the system.
If the doctor doesn't have any suggestion, try for communication misunderstanding.
Thanks mate for the advice and good wish. It’s comforting to know that doctors don’t have audio or video recordings. As wife initially insisted on getting recording of my conversation with the doctor.
Slim comfort bro.
What you really need is a plausible misunderstanding.
Then the rest will have to depend on your wife if she wants more to believe in you or the likelier truth
Thanks a lot everyone for taking the time and your suggestions..
So I got a lucky escape.. Phew!! I was worried like hell tbh..
So here is what happened
I had another appointment yesterday at the same polyclinic(prebooked long time back) for eye checks. Wife said she will go along with me and we together can go see that doctor as well who wrote the referral. I said the eye checks may take long and she will have to wait too long. Also not sure we can get the same day appt by walk in. So she said ok and I went alone. At Poly, i self registered and took a random same day appt. Went to reception and asked if they can change my appt to that doctor who wrote referral. They said all slots are full. Asked which room that doctor is in. Went and sat outside that room and as soon as a patient walked out of that doctors room and before doctor call another patient, knocked on her door and went in. Explained my situation to her and to my surprise she was very cooperative. I said I mistakenly said about me visiting CSW last year. I only went to massage parlours and there was no sexual intercourse during those visits. I told my wife is making a big fuss about this line in the letter and only she can save our family from breaking. I think she got the point and said she will rewrite the referral and removed that line and put the line about massage parlours with no SI involved. Thanked a million times to the doctor and went for the other appt(eye checks). Went home with the amended letter amd gave to wife. She complained a few times why i didn’t call her, why didn’t take voice recording of today’s conversation but I said i was not sure doctor will talk to me without having an appt. I just tried and talked to her. I couldn’t start voice recording as i was already in doctors room and it was not possible to do in front of doctor. Seeing the amended letter she felt a relief.. though she has doubts on what happened between me and doctor but not going berserk about it now and i think in couple of days will get normal..
Big lesson learnt
- don’t visit CSW at all. if only wife can engage in more sexual activities at home. Doesn’t do BJ(conservative background and doesn’t like it), doesn’t allow me going down on her. SI once in a month or so. Younger Kid still sleeps between us. A men has needs after all !!
- if ever go to massage parlour or CSW, be extremely careful. Delete all messages (i was careless with this in past). Don’t browse genuine massage shops as well in FB as then it keeps suggesting other shops with pictures of girls and wife checks my FB..
- discuss with doctor only the things that you can afford to go in your medical records and in black and white on a referral letter. I was assuming it was just a casual discussion amd will stay in that room. Was shocked to see it in black and white in the letter. Always open referrals and test reports (urine/blood etc.) before taking them home.
Thanks a lot everyone for taking the time and your suggestions..
So I got a lucky escape.. Phew!! I was worried like hell tbh..
So here is what happened
I had another appointment yesterday at the same polyclinic(prebooked long time back) for eye checks. Wife said she will go along with me and we together can go see that doctor as well who wrote the referral. I said the eye checks may take long and she will have to wait too long. Also not sure we can get the same day appt by walk in. So she said ok and I went alone. At Poly, i self registered and took a random same day appt. Went to reception and asked if they can change my appt to that doctor who wrote referral. They said all slots are full. Asked which room that doctor is in. Went and sat outside that room and as soon as a patient walked out of that doctors room and before doctor call another patient, knocked on her door and went in. Explained my situation to her and to my surprise she was very cooperative. I said I mistakenly said about me visiting CSW last year. I only went to massage parlours and there was no sexual intercourse during those visits. I told my wife is making a big fuss about this line in the letter and only she can save our family from breaking. I think she got the point and said she will rewrite the referral and removed that line and put the line about massage parlours with no SI involved. Thanked a million times to the doctor and went for the other appt(eye checks). Went home with the amended letter amd gave to wife. She complained a few times why i didn’t call her, why didn’t take voice recording of today’s conversation but I said i was not sure doctor will talk to me without having an appt. I just tried and talked to her. I couldn’t start voice recording as i was already in doctors room and it was not possible to do in front of doctor. Seeing the amended letter she felt a relief.. though she has doubts on what happened between me and doctor but not going berserk about it now and i think in couple of days will get normal..
Big lesson learnt
- don’t visit CSW at all. if only wife can engage in more sexual activities at home. Doesn’t do BJ(conservative background and doesn’t like it), doesn’t allow me going down on her. SI once in a month or so. Younger Kid still sleeps between us. A men has needs after all !!
- if ever go to massage parlour or CSW, be extremely careful. Delete all messages (i was careless with this in past). Don’t browse genuine massage shops as well in FB as then it keeps suggesting other shops with pictures of girls and wife checks my FB..
- discuss with doctor only the things that you can afford to go in your medical records and in black and white on a referral letter. I was assuming it was just a casual discussion amd will stay in that room. Was shocked to see it in black and white in the letter. Always open referrals and test reports (urine/blood etc.) before taking them home.
Sorry for the long post. Thanks again all
That doctor likes you. HAHAHA.
Ask her to give you a BJ and fuck instead. HAHAHA.
She has a very good heart. You should ditch your wife for the doctor instead. HAHAHA.
Thanks a lot everyone for taking the time and your suggestions..
So I got a lucky escape.. Phew!! I was worried like hell tbh..
So here is what happened
I had another appointment yesterday at the same polyclinic(prebooked long time back) for eye checks. Wife said she will go along with me and we together can go see that doctor as well who wrote the referral. I said the eye checks may take long and she will have to wait too long. Also not sure we can get the same day appt by walk in. So she said ok and I went alone. At Poly, i self registered and took a random same day appt. Went to reception and asked if they can change my appt to that doctor who wrote referral. They said all slots are full. Asked which room that doctor is in. Went and sat outside that room and as soon as a patient walked out of that doctors room and before doctor call another patient, knocked on her door and went in. Explained my situation to her and to my surprise she was very cooperative. I said I mistakenly said about me visiting CSW last year. I only went to massage parlours and there was no sexual intercourse during those visits. I told my wife is making a big fuss about this line in the letter and only she can save our family from breaking. I think she got the point and said she will rewrite the referral and removed that line and put the line about massage parlours with no SI involved. Thanked a million times to the doctor and went for the other appt(eye checks). Went home with the amended letter amd gave to wife. She complained a few times why i didn’t call her, why didn’t take voice recording of today’s conversation but I said i was not sure doctor will talk to me without having an appt. I just tried and talked to her. I couldn’t start voice recording as i was already in doctors room and it was not possible to do in front of doctor. Seeing the amended letter she felt a relief.. though she has doubts on what happened between me and doctor but not going berserk about it now and i think in couple of days will get normal..
Big lesson learnt
- don’t visit CSW at all. if only wife can engage in more sexual activities at home. Doesn’t do BJ(conservative background and doesn’t like it), doesn’t allow me going down on her. SI once in a month or so. Younger Kid still sleeps between us. A men has needs after all !!
- if ever go to massage parlour or CSW, be extremely careful. Delete all messages (i was careless with this in past). Don’t browse genuine massage shops as well in FB as then it keeps suggesting other shops with pictures of girls and wife checks my FB..
- discuss with doctor only the things that you can afford to go in your medical records and in black and white on a referral letter. I was assuming it was just a casual discussion amd will stay in that room. Was shocked to see it in black and white in the letter. Always open referrals and test reports (urine/blood etc.) before taking them home.
FWIW, my SO is a medico and she says the following:
1. Speak to the poly doctor and explain that your wife opened the referral without your consent or knowledge and read the contents.
2. She is now upset and threatening taking action against you for your visiting a CSW.
3. Admit what you did was wrong and you've stopped but ask for some consideration to assist you to prevent your family from breaking up.
4. Ask if the doctor can amend the referral to indicate you "visited a CSW in the past".
5. This way your doctor is not lying (the doc WILL NOT lie under ANY circumstance for you) and is not putting themselves in a position of liability for "mishearing" or "making a mistake" in the referral. They are not going to screw themselves to save you...
6. You can then tell your wife you went to CSWs before you met her. before you got married or whenever you think works best to save yourself.
Be open and honest with the doc and there is a likelihood the doc may be ok to assist within reason. Just don’t suggest they "take the blame" for anything.
Thanks a lot everyone for taking the time and your suggestions..
So I got a lucky escape.. Phew!! I was worried like hell tbh..
So here is what happened
I had another appointment yesterday at the same polyclinic(prebooked long time back) for eye checks. Wife said she will go along with me and we together can go see that doctor as well who wrote the referral. I said the eye checks may take long and she will have to wait too long. Also not sure we can get the same day appt by walk in. So she said ok and I went alone. At Poly, i self registered and took a random same day appt. Went to reception and asked if they can change my appt to that doctor who wrote referral. They said all slots are full. Asked which room that doctor is in. Went and sat outside that room and as soon as a patient walked out of that doctors room and before doctor call another patient, knocked on her door and went in. Explained my situation to her and to my surprise she was very cooperative. I said I mistakenly said about me visiting CSW last year. I only went to massage parlours and there was no sexual intercourse during those visits. I told my wife is making a big fuss about this line in the letter and only she can save our family from breaking. I think she got the point and said she will rewrite the referral and removed that line and put the line about massage parlours with no SI involved. Thanked a million times to the doctor and went for the other appt(eye checks). Went home with the amended letter amd gave to wife. She complained a few times why i didn’t call her, why didn’t take voice recording of today’s conversation but I said i was not sure doctor will talk to me without having an appt. I just tried and talked to her. I couldn’t start voice recording as i was already in doctors room and it was not possible to do in front of doctor. Seeing the amended letter she felt a relief.. though she has doubts on what happened between me and doctor but not going berserk about it now and i think in couple of days will get normal..
Big lesson learnt
- don’t visit CSW at all. if only wife can engage in more sexual activities at home. Doesn’t do BJ(conservative background and doesn’t like it), doesn’t allow me going down on her. SI once in a month or so. Younger Kid still sleeps between us. A men has needs after all !!
- if ever go to massage parlour or CSW, be extremely careful. Delete all messages (i was careless with this in past). Don’t browse genuine massage shops as well in FB as then it keeps suggesting other shops with pictures of girls and wife checks my FB..
- discuss with doctor only the things that you can afford to go in your medical records and in black and white on a referral letter. I was assuming it was just a casual discussion amd will stay in that room. Was shocked to see it in black and white in the letter. Always open referrals and test reports (urine/blood etc.) before taking them home.
Sorry for the long post. Thanks again all
The first lesson should be go Dr Tan to check. Later urologists run test then got some findings, again ask wife to come test then jialat.
- don’t visit CSW at all. if only wife can engage in more sexual activities at home. Doesn’t do BJ(conservative background and doesn’t like it), doesn’t allow me going down on her. SI once in a month or so. Younger Kid still sleeps between us. A men has needs after all !!
You have to talk to her about this.
Conservative background and don't do bj has no correlation.
Conservative background means she listens to the man, not pick and choose which she thinks is conservative.
Have a discussion with her since this matter cropped up.
Tell her, like you said, a man has needs.
There are decades still to go for both of you, you decide how you want to live it.
She is unlikely to be stupid enough to believe you.
She is just trying to have a reason to convince ownself that you're clean.
Yeah, I think she also don't want to blow things up and just take it as it is for now. But I think she will remember it for life, so don't make any more mistakes.
Lesson learnt is not to anyhow tell anyone about yr private life. Doctors, lawyers, friends, bff, fwb, relatives, even your own parents.
Just keep quiet about it.
Your wife is quite naive. Lucky for you.
But I must warn you. Women never forgets. She will remember this drama for life. And will definitely bring this up with you time to time.
U better delete all traces. If u drive, better manage yr in car cameras.
Yr wife may ask her friends about this drama and they may teach her how to catch you. I know this will happen because some of female friends of mine came to me on this. And I taught them the ways of catching. Lol.
If ever one day u have to admit about the sex workers, just say u did it during NS days. And never did after NS. this is best escape explanation u can give. No one will blame you for it coz u were young that time and went with NS buddies.
23-10-2024, 10:33 AM
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